Grief, Loss and Letting Go

Grief, Loss, and Letting Go

…letting God rewrite your story

Many people don't understand or appreciate what happens when they encounter a loss (a death, divorce, loss of job, etc.). Too often people either skip over grief or they get stuck in grief. Neither approach resolves the loss or allows grief to do its healing work.

“Too often people cling to what was
and get stuck in the pain and sadness of grief
never accepting the good that God has for them. ”

—

How Do You Deal with Grief?

Any loss leaves a hole in your heart. The question is: what will you do with that hole?  Here are three things people try:

1. Leave the hole empty and mourn forever. They never get over the loss.

2. Kill the pain with addictive habits.  This will lead to more losses in the long run.

3. Fill the hole with busyness. This only delays the healing. When the busyness stops the pain will remain.

The Grief Process Allows God to Rewrite Your Story.

But there is a fourth option. What if you sought God for healing? Healing takes place when you invite God to rewrite your story, this time without whatever or whomever it was that you lost.

It will be a new life, but it can still be good: just different. You want to let God close the hole in your heart over time. That is what grieving is all about...a process of renewal. But you have to let go of what was to embrace what will be.

Too often people cling to what was and get stuck in the pain and sadness of grief never accepting the good that God has for them.

“Grieving is...a process of renewal.
But you have to let go of what was to embrace what will be.”

What Does "Letting Go" Really Mean?

I talk about the process of grief and letting go in more detail in my book, STUCK. But quickly here, "letting go" means that you don't insist that what was lost HAS TO EXIST for your happiness. "Letting go" means you are willing to entertain the idea that God can make good of your life without whatever it was that you lost.

Many people refuse to go there. Even though they know what was lost is gone forever, they hold a thought that their life will never be good again.

““Letting go” means you are willing to entertain
the idea that God can make good of your life
without whatever it was that you lost. ”

Letting Go is a Process.

The hole in your heart doesn't fill up right away. That's why it's a GRIEVING process. It's a time of mourning. And that's okay.

Think of a pie chart. When you encounter a loss your pie is reduced by, say, 25%. You are operating from a deficit. You aren't 100%. But if you are open to God he will slowly start to rebuild your life and fill up that deficit. The pie chart slowly fills in...not with junk that you put there, but with new relationships, hobbies, faith, etc. that brings healing and closes the gap.

You aren’t the same person you were before. Old things have passed away… but new things have come enabling your to live a fulfilled life once again.

I hope this helps you understand what happens when you experience a loss and why it takes time to fully recover. Don't try to fix it on your own. Let God bring healing to your loss over time.

Question:What is your typical response to loss?  How has that worked for you?

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